Act Like....Huh?

First off, let me just say that I am happy to see that other people feel the same way that I do about Mr. Steve Harvey's book "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man". I have to say that I do not agree with this book at all and his philosophies. Tisha, one of my friends, brought this book over to my house one day and she was all excited about it. She read to a group of us girls excerpts from the book and all I can think about was: "wrong. wrong. wrong. wrong." I totally don't believe in what this twice divorced adulterous man has to say about getting a man and keeping him happy. Obviously he wasn't happy with his faithful wife and by the way, Steve Harvey don't got the greatest reputation when it comes to women. So why would I a single girl listen to what he has to say? Do he know my situation or my life story? Hell no! And another thing, that 90 day rule is a bunch of crap! No offense but I feel like if two people agree on waiting to have sex and if they are serious about it, then of course they should wait. But if only one person wanna wait, whats to stop the other person from going somewhere else to get satisfied. I'm not saying that you should have sex with someone on the first night, but hey if you want to, then do you. I just feel like its a mutual decision. I'm pretty sure Steve Harvey wasn't thinking bout the 90 day rule when he was cheating on his wives.

It just saddens me that women feel desperate enough to follow this book on how to get a man. Like this boy said in a blog that I've read: other races of women don't need a self help book from a man. I wish I had the link to the blog but I posted it on my facebook page. I feel like this book makes us look bad and the fact that this movie was number 1 in the theaters this weekend actually saddens me. We have to do better people. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind supporting FAMU alums but I simply cannot bring myself to watch this movie. What you think world?

What is the Color of Beauty?

Today, as I was on twitter, I noticed Roland S. Martin post up his article that he wrote on being dark skinned. It spoke about being dark skinned in this country and its effect on us African Americans. (Below is a link to this article by the way). But it got me thinking, why is there such a problem with being dark skinned. It always bothered me and sometimes it still does bother me when people reference me as being dark skinned. Or when i hear the sentence: "you're pretty for a dark skinned girl", I don't know how to respond to that because: what does that mean? Dark skinned people can't be pretty? Whats up with that?! People do give more attention to those who are lighter and the ones who are lighter are more wanted. What happened to "the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice"?
     I remember when I was in the first grade, there was this girl that I was partnered with for my desk partner and I had to sit with her the entire school year. I remember seeing how pretty she was. She was light skinned, had long bone straight hair and that was really the first time I seen a black girl like this. I was so jealous and I guess for me, that's when I felt that those who were lighter skinned with long straight hair was prettier than me. I felt inferior. I dealt with issue for the longest time in my life and it was only recently did I began to accept my skin complexion.
       African Americans come in a variety of colors and we all should celebrate that. We shouldn't put each other down just because we're not the same color because at the end of the day, we're African American. Whats your opinion on the matter? I really want an answer to this because this intrigues me.

http://www.creators.com/opinion/roland-martin.html